The Diocese of Des Moines

MARRIAGE GUIDELINES

 

A wedding date is to be set no sooner than six months from the initial contact with the priest/deacon/pastoral minister preparing the couple.  Couples should begin their marriage preparation at their home parish by contacting the pastor. 

Couples are required to participate in a sacramental preparation process prior to their marriage/validation. In our diocese this process involves attending a samcramental marriage preparation retreat, hosted by either the diocese or the parish, and also meeting with a sponsor couple who will guide a couple through the FOCCUS inventory. To view the diocesan marriage preparation policies click here.

Current sacramental marriage preparation retreats planned for 2016:

 

December 10th, 2016 at St Mary of Nazareth Parish, 4600 Meredith Drive, Des Moines, IA 50310. (This Course is now closed due to maximum number of particpants). 

January 7th, 2017 at Ss. Peter and Paul Parish in Atlantic Iowa. Address is 106, W 6th St, Atlantic, IA 50022

January 14th, 2017 at All Saints Parish, 650 NE 52nd Ave, Des Moines, 50313.

February 4th, 2017 in Des Moines metro area, exact location TBD.

Feb 18th, 2017 at St. Patrick Parish, 223 Harmony Street, Council Bluffs, IA, 51503. (Please note, this course is hosted directly by St. Patrick Parish. In order to register please call the parish at 712-323-1484.)

March 4th, 2017 in Des Moines metro area, exact location TBD.

April 1st, 2017 in Des Moines metro area, exact location TBD.

April 8th, 2017 at Ss. Peter and Paul Parish in Atlantic Iowa. Address is 106, W 6th St, Atlantic, IA 50022.

May 6th, 2017 at St. Patrick Parish, 223 Harmony Street, Council Bluffs, IA, 51503. (Please note, this course is hosted directly by St. Patrick Parish. In order to register please call the parish at 712-323-1484.)

May 20th, 2017 in Des Moines metro area, exact location TBD.

June 24th, 2017 at at All Saints Parish, 650 NE 52nd Ave, Des Moines, 50313.

August 5th, 2017 at St. Patrick Parish, 223 Harmony Street, Council Bluffs, IA, 51503. (Please note, this course is hosted directly by St. Patrick Parish. In order to register please call the parish at 712-323-1484.)

August 12th, 2017 in Des Moines metro area, exact location TBD.

 

The cost of this course is $80 per couple, and all Saturday Courses run from 9 am until 3 pm.  Scholarships are available to couples, and can be requested by contacting Adam Storey at astorey@dmdiocese.org.  Please register for classes on the diocesan calendar found on this website.

 

Life Skills Workshop

 

If couples cannot meet with a sponsor couple, an additional life skills course is required.  The cost of this workshop is $60 per couple.  Scholarships are available to couples, and can be requested by contacting Adam Storey at astorey@dmdiocese.org.  Please register for classes on the diocesan calendar found on this website.

 

Current life skills courses planned for 2015-2016: 

December 11th, 2016 from 1-5 PM. The Course will be held at Christ the King Parish, Pastoral Center, 820 Porter Ave, Des Moines, IA 50315.

May 21st, 2017 from 1-5 PM. The Course will be held at Christ the King Parish, Pastoral Center, 820 Porter Ave, Des Moines, IA 50315.

August 13th, 2017 from 1-5 PM. The Course will be held at Christ the King Parish, Pastoral Center, 820 Porter Ave, Des Moines, IA 50315.

 

 

In order to make marriage preparation as valuable as possible, the diocese makes an effort to address each couple's particular circumstances.  With this in mind, additional training and resources are available for sponsor couples who work with couples where one or both:

Pregnant or bringing a child(ren) into the marriage

Entering a second or subsequent marriage(includes widow or widower)

Seeking validation in the Catholic Church when there has been a previous marriage

Referred by priest/deacon/pastoral minister


Validation

 

When an engaged couple is civilly married but not Sacramentally married marriage preparation can be adjusted to better suit their needs.  It should be made clear that the couple is not seeking a blessing of the covenant that already exists, but is entering a new, sacramental covenant that has not yet taken place.  To better minister to these couples, the engaged couple should enter one of the following programs:

Work with a sponsor couple who is able to address the unique circumstance of a validating couple. The primary emphasis needs to be on the sacramentality of marriage.

When a couple has been in a civil union less than TWO years, FOCCUS is required. When the civil union has been longer than two years, REFOCCUS is recommended.

If the sponsor couple becomes aware that there are factors present in the relationship that may require further assistance, the priest/ deacon/ pastoral minister will be informed. He/she will then refer the couple to Marriage Ministry.

 

Natural Family Planning

 

Within marriage there is a moral responsibility to regulate procreation, but because of the dishonest and immoral nature of atrificial contraception, which has been confirmed in the constant teaching of the Christ and His Church, only natural means of regulating births are morally licit.  The following resources can help couples learn about Natural Family Planning, which is an effective and moral way to participate in God's plan for sexual intimacy:

 

 

Fertility Services of Central Iowa:  Creighton Model FertilityCare System


Teachers in the diocese:  Julie Craven:  515-554-5099 or naproworks@msn.com Michelle McKernan:  515-225-3261 or vitaefcp-m@qwestoffice.net (In Council Bluffs) Fertility Care Center of Omaha:  402-392-0842

 

Couple to Couple League (ccli.org) - a modern, scientific and highly effective sympto-thermal method of natural family planning that uses a cross-checking system based on three signs of fertility to postpone or achieve pregnancy.

 

The Main Course is offered in 3 different learning options: Live Onsite, Live Online, or Self-paced Online. Transition courses for Postpartum and Premenopause are also offered. Go to ccli.org or contact the local teachers below to learn more.

 

Area teachers:
Kerry & Renee McGuire (English) (515) 278-1623 rjlmcguire@gmail.com
Mark & Patty Conway (English) (515) 276-0313 conirish@gmail.com
Rick & Alexi Dawson (English) (515) 326-1434 fdawsoniv@gmail.com
Demetrio & Paulina Alamilla (Spanish) (515) 265-1139 pavis1815@gmail.com
Jose & Ana De la Cruz (Spanish) (515) 771-4142 Jalisco_guadalajara4@yahoo.com
Miguel & Judith Calderon (Spanish & English) (515) 979-7951 judithceballos1@gmail.com

                                                                                                                        
Billings Ovulation Method or Billings Ovulation Method USA

 

Teachers in the diocese:  Betty McGehe:  515-240-2751 (Spanish in Council Bluffs) - Yolanda Bello-Bogdanyi 712-322-5378

 

Northwest Family Servies:  Symto-Thermal Method

 

Teachers in the diocese: Kristin Detloff (In Pella). More information can be found at                                                   www.lovenaturallynfp.com.

 

Online courses are also available in English or Spanish through the Couple to Couple league and the Billings Ovulation Method can be learned online through Marriage Ministries.  Also, couples can learn the Sympto Thermal Method through Northwest Family Services.  

 

Home study courses are available in English or Spanish through the Couple to Couple league and through the Billings Ovulation Method.

 

For more information about NFP and NFP doctors and teachers, please visit the webiste One More Soul.  For more information about the NFP lifestyle, please visit the website Living the Sacrament.

 

For more local information, contact Adam Storey in the diocesan Marriage Ministry Office at 515-237-5056 or e-mail him at astorey@dmdiocese.org.